Review: Crystal Delights Plug

The Crystal Delights plugs aren’t just anal plugs… they are, in all respects, jewelry for your butt. No, it’s not like vajazzling where you superglue crystals to yourself, or whatever. The Crystal Delights plug is a glass, bulb-shaped plug with a Swarovski crystal in the base. It’s absolutely beautiful, and was also my first glass toy, so I’m really excited to talk about it.

The plugs come with several different colored crystals to choose from, and in two sizes – short and long, referring to the length of the neck. The company that stocks and produces the plug actually created the short version after Britni reviewed & criticized the length of the original plug. If that’s not great service, I don’t know what is!

Since I’m a small person, I picked out the small version. I couldn’t decide between any one color, so I ended up getting the Aurora Borealis, which has hues of topaz and turquoise among its multiple colors.

The plug is on the small side, but the hardness of the glass makes it more substantial than the size might suggest. However, I found it comfortable enough to wear. The short neck fit perfectly, and was very snug.

I cannot get over how gorgeous and glittery it is. The first time I put it in, I snapped a picture and sent it to L immediately. (No, I’m not going to post it.) He really liked how it looked.

The toy also comes with a nice velvet and leather padded case that closes securely with two elastic straps.

The only complaint I have about the plug is that it isn’t suitable to wear under your clothes, or if you’re going to be sitting down for a long period of time. The base is fairly thick and bulky, so felt a little awkward under my jeans. I also couldn’t sit comfortably. It was better when I sat on something soft, like a padded chair or a sofa, but hard surfaces were completely out of the question. When I wore it underneath panties and a miniskirt, then sat down on a wooden chair, I could hear the glass clunking against the surface.

However, I don’t think that should deter anyone from getting the plug. This plug is meant to be flaunted, not hidden away under clothing! Let your partner(s) appreciate it, or use it during sex. Wearing this plug made me want to walk around the apartment naked (unfortunately I still had roommates at the time, so I didn’t indulge). If you want a plug for long-term wear, there are plenty of other, more affordable options on the market.

A lot of care seems to have been put into this product. Each piece is hand-made, and since it’s made of glass, it’s completely non-porous and body-safe. You can sterilize it by wiping it down with 10% bleach solution or rubbing alcohol. (I hesitate to suggest boiling for 5 minutes since I don’t know how the crystal is secured in the base, and I don’t know what effect boiling might have on that. I’d be reluctant to put it on the top shelf of the dishwasher due to potential damage of the crystal, also.)

Next time you have to buy a significant other a gift, you won’t have to pick between a fancy sex toy or jewelry… you can get the best of both worlds.

You can buy your own short AB plug here.

Thanks, Crystal Delights!

Review: Bend-Over Beginner Kit

As you well know, I’m quite the strap-on aficionado, so I was really interested in trying out the Bend Over Beginner kit. It comes with (almost) everything you need for strap-on sex, and the pieces are quality, too:

– Sportsheets Vibrating Velvet Harness
– Tantus Silk SmallD
– Tantus Silk Medium
– 2 O-rings of differing sizes

The only possible addition, or improvement, I could suggest, would be to include a good anal sex book, or DVD. And maybe a small bottle of water-based lube. Still, this is a pretty comprehensive collection of items to have if, as the name of the product suggests, you’re a strap-on sex beginner.

I’m going to go through the parts of the kit one by one. Also, since the name of this product is the “Bend Over” kit, and the dildos are on the smaller side, I’m assuming this product is intended for anal sex, though I’m sure you could use it vaginally as well:

Tantus Silk Small

Upon looking at this dildo, I knew it wasn’t going to do much for me. In both my pussy and my ass, it just felt like a finger. I don’t really see the point in spending money on a Silk Small when using my own fingers would have a similar effect. The one male partner I tried this with wasn’t impressed, and said he could take more, even though I was one of the first people he’d tried anal play with.

On the plus side? The Silk Small is perfect for people who haven’t had much anal experience, but crave the intimacy and intensity of being fucked by a strapped-on partner as opposed to being fingered. I could have seen myself using this on the Optimist, who loved having his butt played with, but was already overwhelmed even when I was only using two of my fingers on him. The Silk Small is, obviously, harness-compatible, is longer than my fingers and has a nice curve, so is probably perfect for seeking out a G-spot/prostate.

Tantus Silk Medium

The Silk Medium was more satisfactory. As it’s thicker, I liked it in my ass a lot better, and actually liked using it in my pussy quite a bit, which was surprising due to it’s small size. Again, the curve was key.

Overall, these two dildos are probably an excellent choice for someone with little to no experience with anal play. The dildos are smooth, simple, uncomplicated, and small. When I first experimented with anal sex, I was very interested and excited, but also pretty nervous. I don’t see either of these dildos being intimidating to someone who might be a little nervous and insecure about trying something new.

To sterilize the Silks, you can wash them with 10% bleach solution, put them in the top shelf of the dishwasher with no soap, or boil them for at least 5 minutes. Also, silicone toys are not compatible with silicone lubes.

Here are the Silks next to my go-to anal dildo, the Tantus Acute:

Sportsheets Vibrating Velvet Harness

The harness, like the dildos, is also very straightforward and easy to use. It has double-straps (that go under your butt as opposed to being worn like underwear) made of nylon, and remind me of backpack straps. You also adjust them the same way you would backpack straps. Very easy. You can also wash the entire thing by throwing it in the laundry. The first harness I ever owned was the Aslan Jaguar, and while it’s gorgeous, I wasn’t quite sure how to take care of the leather. The Velvet Harness is definitely lower maintenance.

In addition to being easy to use, the harness is pretty versatile. It has a pocket where you can insert a bullet vibe (I opted to insert the Lelo Mia, which fit pretty well, except for the base protruding out of it). You can swap out different sized O-rings with four snap closures on the front of the harness. The harness can also fit people whose hips are up to 50″. If you’re a smaller person, like me, and don’t like the straps trailing behind you, you can always trim them and use a lighter to melt the edges and prevent them from fraying.

Personally, I don’t really like the harness that much because it’s a little bulky, and doesn’t fit my body as seamlessly as the other harnesses I own. Ideally, when I wear a harness, I want to feel like it #1 isn’t there, or #2 is an extension of my body. I don’t feel like that when I wear the Velvet harness; this harness feels like I’m strapping on a piece of material, that is sitting conspicuously on top of my cunt, and acting as the base for a dildo. I also don’t feel very connected to my cock anymore, since the triangular piece of velvety material is quite thick. Finally, I don’t find the fuzzy material particularly sensual. I got the purple set, but I think the kit also comes in black. I would’ve liked that color better than the bright purple, too.

So that’s the Bend Over Beginner kit. I ended up giving all the pieces of this kit away, since none of them really worked for me. However, I’m glad this kit exists and I see it being a good purchase for someone who’s just beginning to explore the awesome spectrum of anal play.

Review: Laid D.1

When Babeland offered the Laid D.1 for review, I was intrigued because I’d never heard of the company “Laid” before. It’s a relatively new company1 based in Norway, and its sleek designs looked promising. I have to admit, I was mostly drawn in because it’s based in Europe, and I really like the two European sex toy companies that I know of2.

The D.1 is a mid-sized, silicone dildo that’s marketed as a G-spotter; its pièce de résistance is its asymmetrical head that’s provides both a rounded surface and a pointed surface to stimulate your G-spot. You can supposedly switch between them with a gentle twist. Also, it’s bright blue! Seriously, more manufacturers need to move away from purple and pink, and incorporate bright, candy-colors into their product lines.

Unfortunately, its revolutionary design doesn’t work all that well in practice. It was quite unintuitive for me to use, and it took me a while to find my G-spot with it, although I did manage after a while. I couldn’t feel much of a difference between the two surfaces; except I could tell when the pointy side wasn’t on my G-spot because I could feel it poking my vaginal walls. I tried the “handle” end, as well, but it was too pointy for me to find pleasurable. Since the surface is so smooth, also, if I get lube on the handle or on my hand, things get slippery very quickly, which makes maneuvering the dildo difficult.

During my lengthy toy reviewing stint, I’ve found designs that really work for me; and maybe I’m just being inflexible, but now that I know what works, I’m loath to deviate much from it. For G-spotting, I like the wide, flattened head of the Lelo Gigi or Lelo Ella, and the large, ball-like head of the Pure Wand or Ophoria No. 3. The blunt-head style took a bit of maneuvering at first, but felt amazing once I got the hang of it, and the ball-head style honed in on my G-spot almost instantly. Both of these styles were more effective than the D.1. And when I’m not using a dildo to stimulate my G-spot, I prefer toys that are heavily textured (e.g. the Tantus Echo), while the D.1 is perfectly smooth.

However? I am terribly enamored with the Laid D.1 Stone, which is made of – get this – Black Norwegian Moonstone, or Blue Pearl Larvikite. It’s absolutely gorgeous. Damn, I should have tried to review this one instead. Okay, it’s exactly the same shape as the silicone one, but maybe the material would improve upon it somehow?

Anyway, to sterilize the Laid D.1, you can wash it with 10% bleach solution, put it in the top shelf of the dishwasher with no soap, or boil it for at least 5 minutes. Also, silicone toys are not compatible with silicone lubes.

I guess I just know what I like, and the Laid D.1 isn’t it. It is a well-made dildo, though, and perhaps it will suit your needs better than mine.

  1. It introduced its first products in 2010. [↩]
  2. Lelo is Swedish, and Fun Factory is German. [↩]

njoy Pure Wand Review

Ah, the Pure Wand. The Holy Grail of g-spot toys. Sexbloggers far and wide have heralded it’s magical, squirt-worthy properties. The many reviews that have already been written probably already adequately describe just how wonderful the Pure Wand is; nevertheless, I’m adding my perspective to the mix, hoping that it will enlighten at least a handful of people.

When Tickle offered to send me a Pure Wand to review, I actually cheered. I got it in the mail, hurriedly took it out of the package, and opened the trademark, elegant njoy black box with pink satin lining.

The Pure Wand was intimidating. It’s not enormous or anything like that, but c’mon. It’s 1.5lbs of steel. My first thought: you could probably kill someone if you clobbered them with it. My second: that hard, unyielding, heavy thing was meant for my pussy? The third: hmm, shiny steel is pretty sexy.

So it was intimidating, but in a very sexy sort of way

For a while, I did nothing but open the box and take it out, admiring and feeling the weight. I have to admit, after hearing about the Pure Wand making women squirt, I worried a little about whether the Pure Wand would “work” on me or not. What if it didn’t?

It’s go time!

Anyway, I finally got around to trying it out. I put down a towel, just in case. I dabbed on a few drops of lube – I didn’t need much with its smooth surface – and went to town.

The end with the small “ball” made for a good warm-up. It tickled, teased and tantalized my g-spot until my wrists began to ache. The large-ball-end was pretty heavy, and thrusting while holding that end for an extended amount of time is tiring.

I switched to the large-ball end. I thought it would be difficult for me to get it inside me, since I typically prefer small toys, but it slid in easily. And pressed against my g-spot firmly and insistently.

It was at this point that I experienced a strange sensation: I was overwhelmed with pleasure, but also felt like I needed to pee. I continued to thrust, but I was so distracted by the need-to-pee sensation that I knew there was no way I was going to come like that. So I copped out, held the Pure Wand still, and got myself off by rubbing my clit instead.

A quick Twit and Google search later revealed that the needing-to-pee sensation was a typical precursor to squirting. I’d have to get over the weirdness of it first, though. It’s not that I worry about peeing by accident, but I just associate needing to pee with, well, the toilet. Which I don’t find sexy at all.

Close up of the Pure Wand

Close up of the Pure Wand

Doesn’t it make you horny just looking at it?

For some reason, the first time was the only time I felt the peeing-sensation with the Pure Wand. So, the Pure Wand didn’t get me to squirt (it hasn’t yet, anyway), but that hardly matters, because it feels so damn good. After the first long wank session, I’ve gotten off with the Pure Wand in under five minutes almost every time, unless I make a conscious effort to hold out. I love the firm pressure against my gspot. I love the weight of it in my hand. I love pulling it out of me and feeling how hot it is after warming up to match my body temperature. I love how cool and sudden it feels slipping inside me. I love the physical and psychological thrill of having steel inside me.

The Pure Wand is the only toy that has made me moan aloud while jacking off. And every time I was trying out the Pure Wand, my Twitter feed was literally a flutter with <3s; just ask my Tweeps.

It also works very well as an anal toy. I wasn’t ready for the large-ball end, but the small-ball end feels great.

The Pure Wand does come with a bit of a learning curve (ahaha…), since its shape is quite unlike most dildos out there. I use the same kind of gentle rocking motion that I used with the Lelo Ella, instead of thrusting hard and fast, or trying to thrust with the curve of the dildo, which I did the first time I used it, but which served no purpose except to tire me out even faster.

Oh, also, since the Pure Wand is steel, i.e. nonporous, you can share it. Make sure to sterilize it via boiling, bleaching (with 10% solution) or dishwashing (top shelf, no soap) before sharing. Sterilize it as well if you’ve used it anally but want to use it vaginally the next time. Germs + vag = no.

So… the Pure Wand: it didn’t make me squirt, but it does make me moan. And I fucking love it.


  • – Type: Dildo
  • – Length: 8″
  • – Insertable Length: 7″
  • – Circumference: 5″
  • – Diameter: 1 1/2″
  • – Weight: 1.51lbs
  • – Material: Steel
  • – Price @ Tickle: $110


Five out of five hearts!

If you’re looking for something just for the clit try the Lelo Siri.

Lelo Ella Review

Lelo is basically my favorite company when it comes to vibrators, but I’ve long wondered what the Ella, the one dildo in their product line, would be like. And whether or not it would hold up to my Tantus dildos, because I heart Tantus to no end.


Ella looks just as elegant and discreet as any of Lelo’s other “pleasure objects.” I don’t dislike the way penises look, so I don’t specifically want my dildos to look as un-penis-like as possible. My typical preference in dildos is in between realistic and abstract. However, I definitely appreciate the discreet beauty of Ella. It doesn’t look like a dildo at all, and I’m confident that I can leave it lying around my room without my friends noticing it and making comments. With the Ella, you get the typical excellent Lelo treatment: Ella comes in a sleek black box, with an instruction booklet, one year warranty, and satin storage pouch.



Ella is made out of hard silicone. The toy really doesn’t have any give at all, except at the neck. I don’t really recommend bending it too much because of how thin the neck is. The silicone material is finished off with Lelo’s typical velvet matte, which feels great to touch. Before I jack off with Ella I always find myself fondling and caressing it just because the material feels so nice. Also, like other silicone toys, Ella is non-porous, pththalate-free, and can be shared. Just make sure to sterilize it with a 10% bleach solution, boil it, or throw it in the dishwasher (top drawer, no soap) before sharing.

The Ella in Action

Both ends of the dildo can be used: the G-spot end, that looks exactly like that of the Lelo Gigi, and the pointy end. I did not much like the pointy end. Why? Because just by looking at it, I completely expected that it would feel like my vagina was getting poked. And that’s exactly what it felt like. That end of the toy does have a nice curve to it, and feels quite filling and pleasant, but that point coupled with the hard silicone is just uncomfortable. Also, there are two tiny LELO insignias stamped onto either side of this end. Lube can easily get stuck there, which makes cleaning a little difficult. (I’d recommend using n old toothbrush.) This end makes for a nice handle, though. Well, except for when I try to grab onto it with lube-y hands. The smooth surface makes it extremely slippery when it’s lubed up.

The G-spot end was what I was most excited to try. Gigi was the toy that lead me to find and play with my G-spot for the first time, and actually have a G-spot orgasm (that I was aware of, anyway). I had high hopes that Ella would grace me with the same result. Like with the Gigi, I had to do some initial maneuvering in order to hit my G-spot. I typically push dildos inside me up to a certain depth, because that’s what feels the most comfortable. However, using the Gigi or Ella requires me to push just that little bit more. After that, however, Ella zeroes in on my G-spot perfectly. I’d been reading that there was a bit of a learning curve with Ella, and I found that to be true too. Its sharp curve catches on my public bone a little bit if I thrust hard and deep like I usually do, so I had to thrust shallowly, or use a sort of rocking motion, so that I was lightly pummeling my G-spot with the head of the toy. Once I figured out how to use it, though, I happily jacked off with Ella until I felt the familiar sensation of a G-spot orgasm washing over me; spreading over my body from deep within my cunt.

Final thoughts

I don’t think it’s a toy for everyone, though. For one thing, it’s a bit on the small side. The shape is perfect for G-spotting, but I would almost prefer if the toy was a little thicker, just so that I could have more to clench around. And if you’re a size queen, the Ella probably wouldn’t be enough for you.

But Ella passed my test, alright. This toy makes me want to stretch out my wank session and really enjoy every minute of it.


  • – Type: Dildo
  • – Size: 7″ x 1-1.5″ at widest point
  • – Material: Silicone
  • – Color @ Deep Rose
  • – Colors @ White, Black, Deep Rose
  • – Price @ $44

4 out of 5 hearts!

It can be purchased from she-vibe.